As one with a very non-maternal mother, I think it’s crucial to remember that moms are just regular people. Maybe she’s not the doting mother. Maybe she’s finally learned that being herself is more important than being the person society told her to be.
When our mothers were kids, they were little girls being told their duty in life was to get married and have babies. Many opted out of higher education to pursue what they believed was their dream life: a perfect family. At a young age, they got married and had babies. Many of us now wouldn’t have dreamed of marriage and children at the age of 21, but many of our moms thought that was the only option.
Maybe she really wanted to be a doctor or an astronaut or a physical therapist, but following her own dreams was considered selfish, so she did what she was told.
So, there she was barely 23 with a husband and children and expecting to be happy. But the happiness never came.
After years and years of trying and crying, she realized that was never her dream. She just did what was expected. And her children resented her and her husband left her and she was forced to find who she really was.
When she did, her children grew to respect her struggle and understand that she was always more than a mom. She’s just a person like the rest of us, struggling through, hoping to find happiness. And the true story of how she’s a great mom is in the example she set: it’s ok to be happy. It’s ok to be yourself. You don’t have to be who you aren’t to be loved, respected, and accepted.